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What does it mean to be ready? What does it mean to accept one's task and to be confident that everything is exactly as it should be?
How can we manage to accept what we should really accept? Where do we get the trust from, where do we get the strength from to do it? Can´t we just rely on anyone; can't we just look at what's out there and just live our lives? Without constantly worrying, without constantly being afraid, without constantly thinking of when, if and how everything will turn out. The answer seems simple. Trust. Have confidence in ourselves, have the belief in ourselves that we can create and do anything we want. But we really must want it - I actually try to avoid words like must and should because I can't tell anyone what they should or must do. Everyone can decide for themselves. But here it is quite well used – Well at least I think so – we really must be clear about what we truly want. Where we want to go and what we want to achieve. We are allowed to question ourselves again and again. Am I on my way? Do I still have my goal in mind? Do I even know what I'm working towards, or have I been trapped in the hamster wheel of society for a long time already? For me it was never easy to figure that out, I don't hide behind any faith, I don't attribute the good or bad to anyone. From my point of view, we are responsible for ourselves, we make decisions for or against something. I believe that we can decide what we want every day. Do we want to turn right or left? If we turn left and realize that we have ended in a dead end, then we simply just turn around again. However, now comes a question that changes a lot: If I am in harmony with my inner voice, would I have also turned left in first place, or would I have turned directly to the right? Again, it's still my decision. The decisive factor is where I am in my life. Am I still walking blinded through the world or am I starting to awake and realizing things around me and within myself? Where do you stand? When we are ready to be and live within trust, really everything in life will work out. But this will not happen if we hide at home. We are allowed to show ourselves; we are allowed to perceive ourselves and be perceived by others. Things won't just fall into our lap and yet they´ll do. This may sound confusing, but if we are aware and accept ourselves, show ourselves, live our life, then everything will fall into place. By simply living. And now we are back to the point of trust. We can learn to trust exactly that. To let us fall, to let things go, to give up control. Let life run its course without trying to put things in the right balance or even try to force something. As soon as something doesn't work out easily or by itself, then take a minute and ask yourself, is this really for me? Should it really be that way? If you are now honest with yourself and look back on the last weeks or months and ask yourself, what went easily and smoothly and where did it get bumpy? Become aware of these things for a moment and then ask yourself: With which one am I happy right now? The one that cost me a lot of stress and strength or with the one that just came easily and smoothly to me? I'm not saying that we should never fight for something in life. The crucial thing is to distinguish what it is worthwhile for and what rather not. Counter-question: But I can't know in advance what is really worth fighting for. Counter-answer: Yes. In most cases, you can. When you engage with your inner voice. What does she say? Quite often, our first natural reaction, without thinking too much, is just the right one. Take a moment, just for yourself. Focus only on your breathing. Push away all thoughts and listen to what is within you. How does it feel to be in peace, to be with yourself, to deal with yourself and to say, okay: I accept it. I'm ready. Let's get started. And then live your life the way you feel it to be right. Go wherever you want, free yourself from what you feel you have to free yourself. Only you can decide for yourself. Do you want to live your life in the hamster wheel, or do you want to live it the way it feels right for you?
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I'm very sure of one thing. Whenever that may be, at the end of my life I want to look back and I don't want to regret a single thing, I don't want to have any item left on my list. Nor do I want to start living only because I know that the expiration date is almost reached. I want to live every day - live consciously.
It is always said that a day without a smile is a lost day. But is that true? Can days be lost just because we don't smile? There are days when we just don't feel like smiling. But these days can be our realignment days. It is so important that we can withdraw into ourselves, that we go into peace and calmness, focus on ourselves and check on us weather we are happy or not. Days when we don't smile aren't lost days – these are days that maybe just want to draw our attention to something. Let´s see these days as an opportunity, an opportunity to question and realign. If we take all these changes we can look forward to days when we are back smiling again. Life has so much in store for us, for each one of us, if we have the willpower and really want to tackle our lives, then we can literally do anything. If we know what we want, what our dream is, if we have an exact idea of our life, then we can implement it! It may not always be easy, but if we are 100% convinced of it, believe in ourselves and have confidence in ourselves, then we will manage to remove any stone, pebble or boulder, that we might find on our way. Lift your gaze, stand up, recognize the vastness of the world, learn to accept the limitlessness, because we limit ourselves in our being all alone. Free yourself from your past, open yourself to your future and live in the here and now. We all have this one place that we connect our roots to. We don't have to come from this place, but we feel a connection to this place. It is a place that lets us shine, that changes something in us.
I know that change always takes place within you, but there is no denying that things outside affect us as well. Whether this influence emanates from a person or a place - it doesn't matter. As soon as something touches us, we are allowed to take a closer look. Have you ever asked yourself where your roots are, have you paid attention to the story of your parents, grandparents or even great-grandparents? I don't think it's a secret and it doesn't have to be one, that I have not a good or a connection at all with my grandparents. I broke away from this because I believe that it doesn't matter whether you are linked to a person by water or blood, it is absolutely irrelevant. You can choose family! It is up to you who you want to have by your side. You can recognize your grandma in a person who isn´t related to you in any way at all. The connection you have with that person resonates far higher, it takes place on a different level than a consanguinity. And now let's be honest, these connections are usually worth more because they came out of our own free will and not out of a sense of duty. They always say it doesn't matter where you come from, but who you are. And that is also correct. Still, I think we can find out where our origins lie. In which places did my ancestors live, where did they grow up, what did they experience, what shaped them, why were they the way they were? If we deal with it, then we may be ready to understand them better and to accept them as they were and still are. For me, a place with which I connect my roots is Lindau on Lake Constance, it is the place where my great-grandmother spent a long time of her life, it is one of the places in the world where I feel at home. Where my energy changes, where I change, where I find my way back to myself, where I can return to myself. Today my great-grandma would have been 98 years old. She is the person who meant the most to me. It definitely hasn't always been easy for her and I take my hat off to what she has achieved. Did she do everything right? No definitely not. Could she have done many things differently or better? Yes, in any case. But none of us do everything right in life. We all make decisions or actions and think afterwards, what the hell?! Hey this is life. We live it and we try to live it better every day. No matter how grumpy my great-grandma was, no matter with what rash statements she hurt me, I loved her from the bottom of my heart! She loved to give, she cared, was always up for a joke, had the blackest sense of humour I´ve ever known. But the most important thing? There was warm, pure love in the look of her eyes. I will never forget her eyes and the way they were when she laughed. Our eyes are the gateway to the soul and her soul was and is pure love - like all of us. If I could, I would give anything to sit at the table with her again and see her laughing, just over the stupidest nonsense. These are the moments that we should cherish, that we should keep within. Remind yourself that life is too short, that we can give every single day the chance to become the most beautiful one of our lives and we just live - let's just accept life as it comes upon us, because it is far too short. Let's find out where our roots are and see what that triggers in us. Let´s open ourselves to the new, but also to the old. Sometimes we are allowed to take a closer look, maybe also into the past again, in order to be finally ready to go forward and say with love goodbye to the past. Roots… what are they doing with you? I am who I am today because of so many people.
Because of those that hurt me. Because of those that pulled me down. Because of those that told me I am nothing worse it. I am who I am today because of so many emotions. Because of those when I was desperate and felt lonely. Because of those when I was crying and felt sad. Because of those when I was unable to manage going on living. I am who I am today because I learned how to rise from the ashes. Because I learned that you only get stronger when you were weak. Because I learned that you need negative things in your life to appreciate the positives. Because I learned that no one should tell you what to do. I am who I am today because of me. Because I am the one, that actually lives my life. Because I am the one that is making decisions in my life. Because I am the one that understood that the choice is always yours and only yours. I am who I am today And I am proud of it. How often in life do we make a decision? Weekly? Daily? Hourly?
Do we think a lot before we decide, do we make a list of pros and cons or do we not really think about it and just go for it? No matter how big the decision will be, whether it is just a little thing (which sweater do I wear today, do I take a short or large walk?) or whether it is something bigger (where will my next trip go, do I really want to open a café, is it time to reorient myself?) each of us has our own approach or strategy to make a decision. As soon as we make a decision, we choose something, but we must not forget that we decide against something on the same turn. If I decide to go right at an intersection, I decide against turning left or following the path that goes straight. In order to arm ourselves against later doubts, we should always be sure of our decision. If we live in the trust that my life always contains what I should encounter, then I will not regret any of my decisions, because then I will live in harmony with myself, my higher self, my soul and my inner voice. Let´s move away from the small decisions, like which sweater I put on, whether I go for a short or long walk or where my next vacation will go. Let´s turn to the essential things. Am I happy with the man by my side, do we have a future together, will we have a family, will we build a house, will we live happily ever after? Okay, that sounds like an outdated model, right? So many things are changing right now ... So you can ask yourself whether this typical family picture is still suitable or whether it is ready to be renewed? I personally grew up just as well, in a large house, with a large garden, cats, mother and father always by my side, no worries, hardships and fears except for those that I have put up myself and that I have just brought down with me on earth (since these belong to me and are part of my task, it is also completely okay that they are there). It was a nice way to grow up, but I wonder, will this be my life too? Do I see myself in this constellation in a few years? As a wife, mother, at home, with a large house and garden? Or do I see myself completely different? Because I have a picture in my head that cannot be reconciled with wife, mother, a house and a garden. I am the one who is free, who loves independence, who loves spontaneity, not so much the uncertainty but somehow I do. I live the moment and yet I have a plan, an idea ... But this idea cannot be combined with sedentary life and being a mother, because I know that I cannot do both. So what do I choose? My dreams or a family? Many say you don't have to choose because you can have both. But honestly, who likes to be a mother when he can't be with the children and which children would like to have a mother who is more on the go than at home? I worked for a few families where the mother was constantly working... And what happened? The children begun to see me as their mother and an intensive bond was woven. Do I really want my children to have a more motherly relationship with another woman than with me? No, definitely not. As of today, I choose my dream. Because I'm here to do what I am supposed to do, to live my dreams. I love children and I know that if I ever should be a mother, I will do a great job, but I feel like this time it´s about me… I live my life, now for once I am the centre around which everything in my life revolves. No, it's not an easy decision, but I know that you can't do both with the same amount of passion, love and power... What is the beautiful thing about life? Life always finds a way and what should be, will be. Either way… I have been thinking for a long time about whether to publish my thoughts on the Corona crisis, but right now people seem to forget that there is something positive in every negative thing. We may not see it directly, but it is always there.
I have been in lockdown for four weeks now and within a two-kilometer radius for two weeks. Of course it's not fun at all, but we learn to deal with it and we learn to live with it. It doesn't matter whether you turn on the TV or the radio, go online or talk to friends, it's all about the many fatalities, the people who lose their jobs due to the crisis and how bad and terrifying the whole thing is. Now let's leave this out for a moment, it doesn't matter how bad the whole thing is or what harm it does to the economy, because the main thing in this time is: what is happening to you? If we put distance between ourselves and chaos, then we are able to see more clearly and maybe we will even see the big picture and not just an individual part, such as death, suffering, the economy and so on... I want to try to pay close attention to spirituality, belief, power, thought transformation, the old system and the new world. At the moment we are facing a change, a transformation, the beginning of something new. But before something new can come, the old must give way. However something old will never just go away, because we humans are way too much creatures of habit. It takes something or let´s face it: it takes a lot to start a change in us. At the moment the door to the old is just about to close, because we are forced to go to rest and to refrain. This enables the universe to open a new door. The new is already in the starting blocks, but we may first have to deal with the old in order to really let it go; to be really ready for the new. We can compare it to a tunnel we are currently in. We can still see the light of the entrance, but we walk towards the exit, behind which the new will awaits us. It is the process of transformation that we can go through now, we can let go of the old and leave the past behind. So what happens? The universe condemns us to a break, a forced break. The world stands still and Mother Earth has the chance to recover from our pollution, devastation and careless handling of it. The air is becoming clearer, the water is cleaner, forests are breathing more freely, animals are returning to their usual habitat, birds are singing louder than ever. Mother Earth is doing her part of the transformation and she shows us, now it is up to us. We can focus again on what really matters. Not globalization, not any kind of status symbols. So what's important? You spend a lot of time with your family or partner or with yourself - and this is your chance. Now it's up to you what you do with that time. Can you really focus on yourself? Can you calmly ask and answer the following questions: What does the whole thing do to you? Let's focus on it... You finally have time to focus on yourself. Who are you? What do you really want in life? Are you happy with your life? Are you doing a job that really fulfils you? Do you live your passion? Do you actually know who you really are? Can you look into your own eyes and have a conversation with your soul? We are going through a change, some feel it and others don't. Now it´s time for us to realize that there is so much more than what we´re able to see. So, are you accepting the changes that are coming or are you going to continue your life as before, doing a job that doesn't fulfil you, that may even cost you everything? Will you still ignore your inner voice and won´t follow her advice? Instead you follow the advice of people who pretend to know you, but it is only you who really knows you and knows what is good for you. Perhaps the changes will also be so serious that you will no longer be able to pursue your life as it was before. Then you will be forced to change something. We can always choose an easy or less easy way, but if we are so caught up in our pattern we will never be able to choose the easy one because we cannot perceive it. The fact is: we don't know. What now? We actually have all the information we need. All we can do right now is to take stock of oneself and see what we find there. You already have everything you need within you. Now is the time to recognize exactly that, now is the time to remember and to step into your full being. At the moment you don´t BE at the moment you exist. So stop existing and start BEING. Say goodbye to the old and greet the new, because if there is one thing in life that is constant it´s change. Be ready for the change, because it will come - we are already in the middle of it ... You might lose people through that change but you also might win a very important one: yourself. So open up and let it happen. Let the light shine in you and let awake your spirit and your mind. Feel the awakening and allow it to be…. "Just be you and the rest will come exactly as it should be." This is what my mum told me again and again. And now it's time for all of us to recognize that. Go into the BEING and the rest will come exactly as it should be. Who do you live for?
We flaunt our lives. Every day anew, we show where we are, what we have, what we can and who we are. But do we show the world who we really are or do we just pretend to be a person who we really are not? Do we do this for self-protection? For the struggle for recognition? Or even to feel better about ourselves, in which we ultimately believe our lies and start to live them? Who do you live for? You decide every day anew and you can give every single day of your life the chance to become the best in your life. But that doesn't work in a world where you just pretend to be and don´t be at all. Who do you live for? Who do you keep updated with long messages about the new life you have chosen to live? You report about your life and entertain people with whom you may not even be really in contact any longer. You let your past participate in something that overall isn´t longer part of your present and you don´t know whether it will be still a part of your future. Who do you live for? Are you building up a life for yourself or for the others? Do you find friends and family for yourself or the others? Do you meet a new love for yourself or the others? Can you really settle in your life and start to build up something if you live it permanently for the others and not for yourself? You are the only person you should live your life for, because it is your life, it is not the one of others. Only you decide what´s next, because it is your future and not the future of the others. You are only who you are because of your past and you aren´t who you are because of the past of the others. Only you alone can extricate yourself from all this and live your life according to your ideas, because it´s your life and you live it only for yourself. Who is caught up in his past?
Who imagines their future and focuses on everything that could maybe be? And who actually lives in the here and now? The past is for a good reason our past and not any longer our present. It depends on us whether we were allowed to learn or to teach something in our past. We should never forget that everything that happens to us is completely correct. Everything that happens to us or that we experience happens for a reason and it may sound a bit strange, but it always comes out the way that we chose it. With every decision we make, we move in a certain direction. We know not always what waits for us at the end of the path, but the further we go, the more we recognize what will expects us and then we have the opportunity to decide again: is this path really the one that I actually want to go? Do I really find what I want as part of my life there? So, we either follow the path, we turn right or left, or we make a complete U-turn – but that is totally up to us! It will always be our decisions that make our past to our past. And of course we can learn from our past; from a failed relationship we take with us what a future relationship should no longer look like. We learn from a bad performance that next time we will have to work harder. Through any kind of injury we have actually the opportunity to heal and even from a disaster we can only come out stronger. No matter what it will be from our past that influences us, it will always influence us. How? That is up to us, because we are the once that can influence how it affects us. Nobody can tell us what an experience has to do with us. We alone decide what it does to us. Have a look at your pastime and say goodbye to it, because there is a reason why it is your past. Look forward to your future, you can visualize certain things in it, but live in the here and now. Make yourself aware that everything that counts is the present, the now, because it is the only time you can really take action and more important, it´s the only time where you can live... If you're sorry about something and you'd actually like to go back in time to change it, but you know that everything happens for a good reason...
What would you do? If you'd rather not say anything to the person than: please, I'm sorry, forgive me. Would you tell him? Things are happening - for a good reason... And we learn or we understand it - but usually when it is already too late. You think what if ... But the truth is that you will never know. You will never find out what if, because life is not 'what if'. Life is! And we have to live with that, we have to accept this fact. But you can be sure that if something should be, it will be. And untill then the only thing you can do, is to hope that he will forgive you and will give you a second change. Even if there are no second changes... Love. We can learn one thing right now: people enter our lives, but on the same way they can disappear quickly.
No matter what the circumstances may be, whether it was just a brief encounter or it was a friend for years, we can be sure that it had to happen for a reason. What could this person teach us, or did we act as a teacher for them? Were we companions in a difficult time? Or could we learned that we should be more careful with our trust in someone? I just become aware of this appearance and disappearance of people more and more and I see in the meantime, not always, but sometimes very clearly, what it is actually about. Was it me that was supposed to learn something or was I allowed accompanying someone and teaching him something? No matter who enters our life, it always has its reason. Same happened with my last acquaintance. I don´t want to go any further on the background of getting to known each other but he broke up recently with someone and well I was just there. I knew very well who has been assigned in which role. We talked a lot, I just listened to him and then I showed him ways and possibilities. A few days after our last conversation, I received a very long message from him announcing that he was back in touch with his ex-girlfriend and that she knows that he met me, even if only as a friend, but she is not very enthusiastic about it. A few years ago, I would have been crazy as hell, had the world cursed and also all the males, I would have been deeply disappointed and would have said something like "Of course, it´s always me, always I am the one who is exploited." But in this case it was different; I had to smile when I read his message. On the one hand, it did not surprise me at all, and on the other hand, I realized exactly this: People come into our lives, they accompany us or we accompany them for a while. And it will be fine if they step out of our lives again. What holds forever? Maybe the relationship with ‘the one’, but this model also seems to change. We start a new life with new consciousness and we leave the old models behind us. We are embarking on new terrain. It´s an exciting way and we can really live and enjoy it, as soon as we understand that whatever happens, happens for a reason and also it has its ‘rightness’. Everything will be so much easier for us when we are ready to accept that. |
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